It’s a spring public holiday in Edinburgh today and although not everyone gets this day off, I’m happy to say we’ve got a bit of a break before the hectic period at work starts again.
I’m working on a very personal post that I’d like to share with you soon, but in the meantime, I’ll leave you with a bit of food for thought.
It’s so easy for most of us to just say what comes to mind, but sometimes a bit of tact with how you say it and knowing whether or not you should say it comes a long way. I do have a habit of speaking only the truth, but even then the thought behind it, while not intentionally harmful, can be perceived as such depending on the other person’s frame of mind.
Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate absolute honesty from my friends, even if it’s something I don’t like to hear, but I also realise that not everyone appreciates the sentiment reciprocated. I’ve learned that how I think and feel about myself is also something I need to shift. We tend to be our own worst enemies and say critical things about ourselves that we wouldn’t say to a loved one. We need to start loving ourselves more; without a greater appreciation for ourselves, we will always carry around a sense of bitterness and expectation for others to live up to our standards.
The thoughts we harbour about other people as well could do with some thoughtfulness. While it’s true we can’t always control the thoughts in our head, but the thoughts stem from feelings. Would we ever want our friends and family to hear what we’re thinking? If the answer is no, we need to address those thoughts and find out why we think that way. Slip of the tongue and speaking without thinking does happen and we need to consciously reign it in so we don’t say hurtful things we would later regret.
Instead of judging others, think carefully before saying words that will leave a lasting impression on others.